I was raised as a spoiled princess. My mom used to have at least two maids living in our house, to take care of her 3 children and the house, since I was a little girl until I became university student. Til her last day on earth she always hired someone to be our maid. She was only 43 years old when cancer took her life.
As the time went by and I had to face my own reality, I felt that being a spoiled girl will never bring me to the place I needed to be. It is necessary for me to learn about my own true nature, where my true strength naturally lies.
Reading some replies on my last post, I would love to say thank you for all the thoughts. That post is written subjectively based on the way I live my life. My ups and downs fill many colors in the way I see life now. The colors that may not touch other perspective in the same way.
As a religious person, we used to get a lecture about being patient and grateful to accept our reality as it is. I learn that many people stay in a life that might feel like a hell on earth with a hope to gain the heaven in the next journey. It happens just because they can't manage to create an effective communication bridge with whomever they share their very life. Many more think everything is under control just because the other party never complain about anything. I would say "Been There Done That...!". This condition of life actually goes against anyone true nature.
In my religion divorce is allowed. Yet when the storm hit my marriage, my choice was mending it. My struggle started with spending many months to learn about my own true nature and the religious value especially about marriage. And I found, God never wants any of us to go against our true nature. As human, we need to find the balance and harmony within our body, mind, heart and soul, in order to get in touch with our own true spirit and generate the unlimited connection with The Source. The Mighty Spirit that connected the whole universe. From the tiniest creature on earth as virus, up to the biggest star in space like VY Canis Majoris.
I believe when there are 7 billion people in the universe, there will be 7 billion ways to find that Mighty Spirit. Many call him God, manifest in dozens religions exist on earth. For those who learn and believe in religions, Is that mean they automatically learn the spirituality of God, which also manifest in all His creations..??? As a religious person, I'm taught once that I need to recognize my own true nature, only then I will found the divine spirit manifest in me. As also then I learn about other people true nature and the divine spirit manifest in them. By recognizing other true nature, I learn to understand them and eventually create the bridge to communicate effectively in better way.
Whomever created earth, choose women to nurture the next generation. Human life evolve through a mom's body. Not only the body, every mom must aware to nurture the mind, heart and soul of every newborn nesting in our body for more than 9 months. And after that we need to breastfeed them exclusively for at least 6 months. Until they learn how to walk and do every thing by themselves they are depending to their mom. The first thing every newborn learn from their moms is how to communicate. That's why our first language called our mother tongue. With that huge nurturing task, wouldn't it be very fair, if then the duty to bring food and money, also manage the house keeping lies on the shoulder of the newborn father..??
Women created with stronger feeling to sense their own heart and soul, while men are created with stronger logic to maintain the connection between their body and mind.The men need to make sure their women live in a good habitat to be happy and healthy enough to maintain the spirit connection within their heart and soul in harmony. So then Moms would be able to nurture the heart and soul of anyone living in her house, while Dads can help nurture the body and mind of their offspring. Moms and Dads should have been the best team on earth whose duty managing the balance on how to raise the children in harmony of their own true nature. So the children could really learn about their own true nature in early stage of life and notice their own harmony.
Yet life has gone too far from that harmony, human has gone too far from their own true nature. Men and Women tend to compete instead of working together, as people lost in gender equal bias. I didn't try to go against the women right to live as they choose. If the life, job and work load is not against their true nature, everything is fine.
I read books by Allan and Barbara Pease, called Why Men Don't Listen & Why Women Can't Read The Maps, and some more books with the same idea about how men and women are wired differently. I would say competition, target and velocity is more men things. I'm not saying women can't do this, but I believe it is not our true nature. We are not designed to go back and forth towards one destination daily in the morning and going back home at the end of the day. I would prefer to be a person who work from home and going to many direction when the necessity come.
I was a stay at home mom, from the very day my first daughter was born, until my fourth boy turn 2 years old. By the time my children no longer need my 100% presence, I transform myself to grow and become the person I ever wanted to be. Ever since I learn about my own true nature I grow even better. I love to learn, write and teach, I love to meet people. And yes, I make money, not much nor regularly. But everything I do, I do it out of love. And most of all I will never again go against my own true nature. As I will never again stop learning and growing to make my life truly worth living.
Maybe that is how a heaven on earth looks like for me...
Thank you for reading me. Allow me to say, everything is written subjectively based on my own experience that is why, I would love to read your feedback...
Bunch of love,
ArifaH
As the time went by and I had to face my own reality, I felt that being a spoiled girl will never bring me to the place I needed to be. It is necessary for me to learn about my own true nature, where my true strength naturally lies.
Reading some replies on my last post, I would love to say thank you for all the thoughts. That post is written subjectively based on the way I live my life. My ups and downs fill many colors in the way I see life now. The colors that may not touch other perspective in the same way.
As a religious person, we used to get a lecture about being patient and grateful to accept our reality as it is. I learn that many people stay in a life that might feel like a hell on earth with a hope to gain the heaven in the next journey. It happens just because they can't manage to create an effective communication bridge with whomever they share their very life. Many more think everything is under control just because the other party never complain about anything. I would say "Been There Done That...!". This condition of life actually goes against anyone true nature.
In my religion divorce is allowed. Yet when the storm hit my marriage, my choice was mending it. My struggle started with spending many months to learn about my own true nature and the religious value especially about marriage. And I found, God never wants any of us to go against our true nature. As human, we need to find the balance and harmony within our body, mind, heart and soul, in order to get in touch with our own true spirit and generate the unlimited connection with The Source. The Mighty Spirit that connected the whole universe. From the tiniest creature on earth as virus, up to the biggest star in space like VY Canis Majoris.
I believe when there are 7 billion people in the universe, there will be 7 billion ways to find that Mighty Spirit. Many call him God, manifest in dozens religions exist on earth. For those who learn and believe in religions, Is that mean they automatically learn the spirituality of God, which also manifest in all His creations..??? As a religious person, I'm taught once that I need to recognize my own true nature, only then I will found the divine spirit manifest in me. As also then I learn about other people true nature and the divine spirit manifest in them. By recognizing other true nature, I learn to understand them and eventually create the bridge to communicate effectively in better way.
Whomever created earth, choose women to nurture the next generation. Human life evolve through a mom's body. Not only the body, every mom must aware to nurture the mind, heart and soul of every newborn nesting in our body for more than 9 months. And after that we need to breastfeed them exclusively for at least 6 months. Until they learn how to walk and do every thing by themselves they are depending to their mom. The first thing every newborn learn from their moms is how to communicate. That's why our first language called our mother tongue. With that huge nurturing task, wouldn't it be very fair, if then the duty to bring food and money, also manage the house keeping lies on the shoulder of the newborn father..??
Women created with stronger feeling to sense their own heart and soul, while men are created with stronger logic to maintain the connection between their body and mind.The men need to make sure their women live in a good habitat to be happy and healthy enough to maintain the spirit connection within their heart and soul in harmony. So then Moms would be able to nurture the heart and soul of anyone living in her house, while Dads can help nurture the body and mind of their offspring. Moms and Dads should have been the best team on earth whose duty managing the balance on how to raise the children in harmony of their own true nature. So the children could really learn about their own true nature in early stage of life and notice their own harmony.
Yet life has gone too far from that harmony, human has gone too far from their own true nature. Men and Women tend to compete instead of working together, as people lost in gender equal bias. I didn't try to go against the women right to live as they choose. If the life, job and work load is not against their true nature, everything is fine.
I read books by Allan and Barbara Pease, called Why Men Don't Listen & Why Women Can't Read The Maps, and some more books with the same idea about how men and women are wired differently. I would say competition, target and velocity is more men things. I'm not saying women can't do this, but I believe it is not our true nature. We are not designed to go back and forth towards one destination daily in the morning and going back home at the end of the day. I would prefer to be a person who work from home and going to many direction when the necessity come.
I was a stay at home mom, from the very day my first daughter was born, until my fourth boy turn 2 years old. By the time my children no longer need my 100% presence, I transform myself to grow and become the person I ever wanted to be. Ever since I learn about my own true nature I grow even better. I love to learn, write and teach, I love to meet people. And yes, I make money, not much nor regularly. But everything I do, I do it out of love. And most of all I will never again go against my own true nature. As I will never again stop learning and growing to make my life truly worth living.
Maybe that is how a heaven on earth looks like for me...
Thank you for reading me. Allow me to say, everything is written subjectively based on my own experience that is why, I would love to read your feedback...
Bunch of love,
ArifaH
P.S : Allow me to share a recent capture of My First Experience being a Sales Girl for a frozen yogurt product, in last Saturday bazaar. From zero to hero, transforming a full time stay at home mom into a working from home Mompreneur...
Selling 60 items out of 66 items I brought, and having my one and only husband as Partner...
It felt AWESOME, because I did it out of LOVE...!!!
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