L O V E ...

....And as my broken heart lies bleeding  / You say true love it's suicide  / You say you've cried a thousand rivers / And now you're swimming for the shore  / You left me drowning in my tears /And you won't save me anymore...
Bon Jovi said,
true love is suicide, 
yet it is never a sin...

Kahlil Gibran said,
love is always enough for LOVE, 
but we tend to complicate it 
with sense of belonging...

For the love is always ours,
to hold and to give,
unconditionally...

At this very age I believe,
we no longer choose
who or what or when or where to love
LOVE shall choose for us...

All we should do is learning
HOW to LOVE,
with full intensity
in all capacity...

Then Love will keep us ALIVE...

Will You Dance with Me...???

I thought time has let the river run die, 
stole everything from us, 
as the sparks gone away...

Yet beyond believe,
It still hurts me much to see you're hurting...

So kiss me,
like I've never been kissed,
we shall turn the flame back on
in no time...

Will you dance with me...???
Like the sea rush to shore,
for the waves never know how to stop...

Till the end of time,
for eternity...

Options and Perspectives in Life...

I just wake up this morning, when I read a friend wrote a sweet reply on my blog...

"The thing  that amazes me most about you is...in your country where there is so much heartache....you still find beauty in everyone and everything..." 

One of the thing I love about blogging, my blogs always give me good reason to smile and write more... So allow me to answer that reply in this blog... 

My dear friend, a heartache will only be a heartache, if our heart say so. And the thing about my world, I accept it as a dolphin who will never see the sticky wetness of salt water as a problem for his skin. In fact he can't survive without the sea water covering his skin. (I love Freewilly movie)

It is a matter of perspective. Perspective always plays an important role in human life as it is directly affecting the options of each choices people should make in life. If you're familiar with Asian custom, you might understand by seeing it through the yin and yang symbol. There's always a white dot in every black area, as there's always a black dot in every white area. While black and white (not as color) are relative depend on people perspective.  In that case why would we give our mind barriers with something that might cause a heartache. Don't you think it is better we start renewing our perspective in life.

I'm lucky to be connected in the net, which allow me to have a portal to access many souls on earth. So I can broaden my own horizon by looking through many kind of people and their perspectives about life. I start writing in English on  May 2011. Since then I started to speak with people all over the globe through the net.

That is how I learn about human true nature. I start to accept my own uniqueness as a default factory setting which exists in my small world for a reason, instead of going against it just because I can't follow the mainstream. Once I understand my own uniqueness, I start to find uniqueness in other people who lives around me and accept it as reality that I must face. Including in fixing my own marriage, so I can taste the rainbow of my brand new life.

Many kind of people in my world were busy talking about the true path to live the life. I was brainwashed since early age, that there's only one true way. Each claimed that their path is the truth. Yet, I survived the brainwashing situation that finally cause major heartache in my own being few years ago. I grew to be a better me, once I realized about the nature of the truth and adjust my own perspectives about life. Then I decided to set the quest to find my own truest truth as a way to acknowledge my existence track, this time based on the reality as my own body, mind, emotion, heart and soul sense. 

People say life begin at forty. Now I see the reason why, and happily accept I still have sometime before my life really begin. As I understand making my life worth living is about making more options and setting new perspectives to live at the most. So I will be able to love the life with full intensity as I live it with full capacity. 

Because heaven help those who help themselves.

Have a new reason to rebirth...

Happy Reborn...

Bunch of love,

ArifaH

Journey from Zero to Hero : Acknowledging My True Nature...

I was raised as a spoiled princess. My mom used to have at least two maids living in our house, to take care of her 3 children and the house, since I was a little girl until I became university student. Til her last day on earth she always hired someone to be our maid. She was only 43 years old when cancer took her life.

As the time went by and I had to face my own reality, I felt that being a spoiled girl will never bring me to the place I needed to be. It is necessary for me to learn about my own true nature, where my true strength naturally lies.

Reading some replies on my last post, I would love to say thank you for all the thoughts. That post is written subjectively based on the way I live my life. My ups and downs fill many colors in the way I see life now. The colors that may not touch other perspective in the same way.

As a religious person, we used to get a lecture about being patient and grateful to accept our reality as it is. I learn that many people stay in a life that might feel like a hell on earth with a hope to gain the heaven in the next journey. It happens just because they can't manage to create an effective communication bridge with whomever they share their very life. Many more think everything is under control just because the other party never complain about anything. I would say "Been There Done That...!". This condition of life actually goes against anyone true nature.

In my religion divorce is allowed. Yet when the storm hit my marriage, my choice was mending it. My struggle started with spending many months to learn about my own true nature and the religious value especially about marriage. And I found, God never wants any of us to go against our true nature. As human, we need to find the balance and harmony within our body, mind, heart and soul, in order to get in touch with our own true spirit and generate the unlimited connection with The Source. The Mighty Spirit that connected the whole universe. From the tiniest creature on earth as virus, up to the biggest star in space like VY Canis Majoris.

I believe when there are 7 billion people in the universe, there will be 7 billion ways to find that Mighty Spirit. Many call him God, manifest in dozens religions exist on earth. For those who learn and believe in religions, Is that mean they automatically learn the spirituality of God, which also manifest in all His creations..??? As a religious person, I'm taught once that I need to recognize my own true nature, only then I will found the divine spirit manifest in me. As also then I learn about other people true nature and the divine spirit manifest in them. By recognizing other true nature, I learn to understand them and eventually create the bridge to communicate effectively in better way.

Whomever created earth, choose women to nurture the next generation. Human life evolve through a mom's body. Not only the body, every mom must aware to nurture the mind, heart and soul of every newborn nesting in our body for more than 9 months. And after that we need to breastfeed them exclusively for at least 6 months. Until they learn how to walk and do every thing by themselves they are depending to their mom. The first thing every newborn learn from their moms is how to communicate. That's why our first language called our mother tongue. With that huge nurturing task, wouldn't it be very fair, if then the duty to bring food and money, also manage the house keeping lies on the shoulder of the newborn father..??

Women created with stronger feeling to sense their own heart and soul, while men are created with stronger logic to maintain the connection between their body and mind.The men need to make sure their women live in a good habitat to be happy and healthy enough to maintain the spirit connection within their heart and soul in harmony. So then Moms would be able to nurture the heart and soul of anyone living in her house, while Dads can help nurture the body and mind of their offspring. Moms and Dads should have been the best team on earth whose duty managing the balance on how to raise the children in harmony of their own true nature. So the children could really learn about their own true nature in early stage of life and notice their own harmony.

Yet life has gone too far from that harmony, human has gone too far from their own true nature. Men and Women tend to compete instead of working together, as people lost in gender equal bias. I didn't try to go against the women right to live as they choose. If the life, job and work load is not against their true nature, everything is fine.

I read books by Allan and Barbara Pease, called Why Men Don't Listen & Why Women Can't Read The Maps, and some more books with the same idea about how men and women are wired differently. I would say competition, target and velocity is more men things. I'm not saying women can't do this, but I believe it is not our true nature. We are not designed to go back and forth towards one destination daily in the morning and going back home at the end of the day. I would prefer to be a person who work from home and going to many direction when the necessity come.

I was a stay at home mom, from the very day my first daughter was born, until my fourth boy turn 2 years old. By the time my children no longer need my 100% presence, I transform myself to grow and become the person I ever wanted to be. Ever since I learn about my own true nature I grow even better. I love to learn, write and teach, I love to meet people. And yes, I make money, not much nor regularly. But everything I do, I do it out of love. And most of all I will never again go against my own true nature. As I will never again stop learning and growing to make my life truly worth living.

Maybe that is how a heaven on earth looks like for me...

Thank you for reading me. Allow me to say, everything is written subjectively based on my own experience that is why, I would love to read your feedback...



Bunch of love,

ArifaH

P.S : Allow me to share a recent capture of My First Experience being a Sales Girl for a frozen yogurt product, in last Saturday bazaar. From zero to hero, transforming a full time stay at home mom into a working from home Mompreneur...
Selling 60 items out of 66 items I brought, and having my one and only husband as Partner...
It felt AWESOME, because I did it out of LOVE...!!!

Heaven is A Place on Earth..

I'm learning my spirituality path, not as a spiritualist or religious person want to be, but as my true nature. I'm a human, more than that. I'm a mom, A wife yet I am also. A woman. Each of my duty has consequences. But each consequences need balance and harmony to be blended in me holistically. So I can perfectly accept the me I am, is the best life I can ever live with right now. 

I personally believe one of the basic reason why the world today is suffering, because we let our women suffered. Living in cruel world where they are ripped out from they're own true nature. Believing in feminism where women need to work twice as good as men just to be acknowledge as good (my mom was a doctor, i learn this fact from her, while at that time, MD still a male domination job). 

I fail to see it as feminism, it is more looks like a form of female masculinism, it might felt like an exorcism. Being ripped apart from our true nature to chase money. This suffered world succeed in making women think they need to spend loads of money just to be beautiful, while unfortunately beauty is never about what brand you wear or which beauty care you choose. And no money can really ever buy the true nature of fortune and beauty all women could give, such as love, compassion, empathy, generosity, dignity and integrity. 

In order to reverse that situation, I believe the world need all moms to stick together and learn to be an earth mother, She's the kind of woman who perfectly aware that acknowledging and accepting her own true nature is the only way to live. So that she would think that heaven should be a place on earth. Because In order to bring the heaven down to earth, She will need to find the heaven first within her, by loving the life she has inside.

The earth mom needs to live in a home sweet home, in Arabic we call it baity jannaty, which means my home my heaven. So if every home can feel like heaven for moms, what do you think will the dads and the children feel..? 
Yes...!!! Heaven on earth...!!! And the world will be a better place..

Yet, so many moms believe they have made a wrong choice, while she agree to marry the one she lives with (I was one of them). How would her home be a heaven for her, while she think she share it with the very man which make that home feels like hell. 

I would say, it is not about choice. There's no such a wrong choice when we already choose. It is meant to be. The failure lies on the way we manage to live with the consequences of all choices we made. 

We tend to let the balance go, we allow the harmony we should feel turns to riot, while actually all we have to do is finding more options to choose and manage all the consequences better. At home we definitely can't do all by ourselves. Yet, we often forget the best tools we have in order to get connected with the ones we love with,. I call them, negotiation, win-win solution and best agreement. And the key to use that tools call communication. I would never say it will be easy, but I believe it is worth a try...

"You may say I'm a dreamer, 
but I'm not the only one, 
I hope someday you will join us,
and the world will live as one..." 
~ JL

Let's grow together, and find our own true spirit, 
Let's reclaim our own feminine power as a happy woman...

Have a reason to rebirth,
Happy Reborn...

Bunch of Love,

ArifaH